truths...

 the truth of the matter is can't nobody fix you.  you gotta fix yaself, period.  ain't no way around it.  so many people go into relationships thinking that's gonna fix they shit... and it don't.  it really make shit worse when you think about it cuz you're going into some shit with a false expectation of things changing cuz you added something else to the equation.  real shit, when you tryna fix you, you gotta subtract everything that threatens your energy & that includes relationships. 

(that toxic trauma bonding shit don't count here cuz if you're still doing that, you're not ready to heal.)

 

how is it that you can logically go into a situation broken in a million pieces & expect somebody else to pick em up?  that shit don't work & the average mfr with any common sense should be running to the nearest exit once they figure that shit out about you.  

 

you have to focus on fixing you.  until you do that, you're gonna find yourself in consistent situations with broken people who leave you worse off than you started.  if you want different you have to be different because in this life, you attract what you are.  those very people you feel like are the problem are just reflections of the real you, so definitely fix the shit in you that you don't like in other people.  otherwise, you're a hypocrite & none of this shit will make sense to you anyway, so gon exit stage left beloved.

 

i walked away from a few relationships with overall good people because they had too much shit with them.  see, a lot of people can have shit together financially & look the part, but that don't mean they are emotionally & spiritually balanced.  hell, in most cases that's the most blatant red flag - like seriously, all you have to offer is worldly shit... yeah maybe 20 years ago, but not now... now a mfr need to be already assembled.  i say this because i have to maintain my own energy, so i need them to be able to maintain theirs as well.  once you really heal & balance yourself out, you'll realize that possession ain't shit compared to a mfr that is spiritually aligned & in tune.