people be peoplin...

i'm stiff af on my boundaries, now anyway, cuz in the process of tryna balance this sh*t i called life out, i came to realize i allowed mfrs get comfortable overstepping their boundaries.  yep, i allowed people to get just that comfortable to where they thought the shit i said didn't apply to them & that pattern had me quite bitter for a while.  i lost friends.  shit i’m still losing friends.  but guess what, i'm gonna be ok with losing mfrs until i get the right group around me that understand the shit i’m on.  see that's the beautiful thing about peace, when you got it, you don't want no mfn body around you disturbing it...  so sometimes you gotta re-teach people how tf they supposed to handle you & that's not tf at all.  don't ever let a mfr get comfortable coming out they lane with you.  period.  if you realize a person thinks they can treat you however they want to, then that's the very mfr you need to get rid of, today, preferably right now.

understand something, stop feeling bad (& damn sure stop letting people make you feel bad) for saying no, the problem is not that you're enforcing boundaries on your shit, the problem is you’ve allowed mfrs to feel entitled to what's yours... if you're gonna feel bad for something, feel bad for ever letting a mfr get that comfortable in your space.  this is the part where you gotta learn to be ok with making mfrs uncomfortable, specifically with your shit & your shit isn’t just material, it’s your feelings, emotions, thoughts, all that. 

call me selfish but my shit is just that.  my shit.  it's not ours & it's definitely not yours, it's very much tf mine.  i work & sacrifice for my shit daily.  ain't nobody out here paying & paving my way thru life, so nobody gets credit for the shit i do & did by myself, but me.  

ok, now that we’re being adults about it, first things first, if you gotta tell another grown mfr to respect your boundaries (& i don't give a damn what the boundary is, it could be your fruit snacks for all i care) that's a big red flag.  this behavior comes from allowing people to disrespect you.  when you allow small things, people feel like they can get away with big shit, most often they do.  you have to get out of letting people make it & check shit right when it happens.  when you let a person know off top that you’re not going from the bullshit  they’ll either comply or fly.  (when they fly let em go beloved, you don’t need that type of negativity in your space.) 

stop letting people make it.  if a person oversteps their boundary or makes you feel some type of way, speak up & speak out, right then & right there.  you don’t always have to be rude, but hey if the moment calls for it, then act accordingly.  now where we humanoids typically screw this up is, you have to stand on what you say.  i’ve had to cut some real close people off because i had to tell them the same thing just one too many times & having to say some shit at all is an instant no for me, even if it stings a little to let go.